One man is questioning everything about his friendship with a groom-to-be after he received an invite to his wedding — and his girlfriend didn’t.
In a recent post shared on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, the man explained why he is considering stepping down from his groomsman role in his close friend’s upcoming wedding.
“I have been invited to be a groomsman at my friend’s wedding but my girlfriend who I live with has not received an invite — we will have been together two years at the date of their wedding and have currently lived together for 8 months,” his post began.
According to the man, his girlfriend not being included on the wedding guest list wasn’t necessarily shocking. This is because the groom’s fiancée has been “incredibly rude” to his girlfriend in the past.
“The bride-to-be was incredibly rude to my girlfriend the first time they met, describing her as ‘the one you are currently sleeping with’ amongst other unsavory comments,” the Redditor wrote. “She has had an issue with her since this despite my girlfriend being incredibly pleasant to her anytime they’ve met.”
Even though the man had suspicions as to why his girlfriend wasn’t invited, he wanted a direct answer from the couple. He asked them for clarification as to why he wasn’t allowed a plus-one considering he’s in the wedding party and in a serious relationship. In response, the groom said that he and his fiancée were “tied to the list they made early last year.”
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“However, at that stage I had already being going out with my girlfriend,” the groomsman pointed out.
“I feel that my relationship has been completely disrespected,” he continued before asking his fellow Reddit users, “Would it be wrong to decline the invite? What should I do?”
Most replies were quick to side with the OP (original poster), telling him that attending the wedding would be disrespectful to his girlfriend. Other users even suggested that the groomsman end his friendship with the groom and his soon-to-be wife over their inconsiderate behavior.
“Why would you be a part of a wedding of someone who disrespected your partner?” one person questioned. “If you choose to attend the wedding, you are risking your relationship.”
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“It is perfectly OK for you to tell the groom that you wish him well but you will not be in his wedding and you will not attend his wedding,” someone else added.
“This is very easy,” another Redditor commented. “You tell him thanks for the groomsmen’s job but I’m not able to do this as my partner isn’t welcome. I hope you enjoy your day though. They purposely left her out and now you need to stand up for the woman you love and see a future with. Who needs friends like this anyway?”
In an edit to his original post, the OP shared that he was “blown away” by the kind responses he received.
“I was 99.9% certain I was going to decline and was largely curious on consensus,” he said. “I’m very privileged to have a number of groups of friends and I have no qualms with losing a couple if required.”
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