A bride is still fuming after her brother brought his pregnant new girlfriend to her destination wedding — and then demanded that she be included in the family photos.
In a post on Reddit‘s “Am I the A——?” forum, the bride began by sharing that she had gotten married the previous weekend and was “still so pissed off at what my brother did.” She explained that she and her now-husband kept their wedding guest list very small, inviting only their families and closest friends.
She said she was aware that her college-aged brother, 21, was bringing a date, but noted that he had described her as “just a girl from school” and not his girlfriend. When the bride’s parents picked up her brother and his date at the airport, however, they were surprised to see him “hand in hand with an obviously pregnant girl that none of us had ever met.”
“My parents were obviously taken aback,” the bride wrote. “My brother greeted them like everything was normal, according to my mom, and my parents didn’t really know what to do or say. Then he just said, ‘Surprise!’ ”
At first, the brother simply introduced his family to the woman and didn’t clarify if she was his girlfriend. Later that day, while the pregnant woman was resting in her room, the family “awkwardly” sat down together for dinner, with everyone “barely saying a word.”
Finally, the bride recalled, “My mom says, ‘Is that your baby?’ ”
“He admitted it’s technically not his baby, but he’s in love with her and intends on being a father to the baby anyway,” she continued. “The actual father isn’t involved and doesn’t want to be, and if they get married then he can adopt the baby so he’ll legally be the father.”
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The bride went on to explain that her brother — who is about to graduate from college and plans to attend law school — has been secretly living with the woman, 29, since the early weeks of her pregnancy. Her parents were alarmed by the situation, putting a damper on her wedding celebration.
“They were stressing out about it throughout my entire wedding weekend. It was like my wedding became an afterthought,” she vented. “All my parents could talk about was how to make my brother change his mind about this girl.”
On the day of her wedding, the bride reached “a breaking point” when her brother demanded that his pregnant girlfriend be included in the family photos. She said she immediately put her foot down.
“I told him no. I refused to let her be in the photos,” she recounted, arguing, “She isn’t family. None of us knew about their relationship, and we met her 2 days prior. She shouldn’t be in our official family pictures from my wedding.”
“It just made my blood boil!” she added.
The bride said her brother ruined her wedding by bringing his pregnant girlfriend, “especially without warning,” and then failing to correct other family members and guests’ assumptions that the baby is his, which led to “everyone gossiping and wondering the whole time.”
“He took all of the attention off of me and my husband. This was my freaking wedding day!” she fumed. “I feel like it’s all anyone was talking about during the wedding and now it’s like the main thing any of them even remember from the entire thing.”
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In the comments section, fellow Redditors were in agreement that her brother pulled an “a—— move” by bringing his pregnant girlfriend to the wedding, with some even suggesting it might have been a calculated choice.
“He absolutely shouldn’t have dropped that bomb at your wedding,” one person wrote.
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“I think he knew in a wedding setting that attention would be divided — your wedding was his meat shield,” someone else wrote, prompting another to chime in: “Had the brother introduced her at home, his parents might’ve completely lost their sh– on him. At OP [original poster]’s wedding, he thought his parents would be focused on the wedding and their response would be muted.”
A third person agreed, writing, “He used your wedding as a cover. He knew everyone would be focused on you so it was ‘safe’ to introduce her and his plans to the family. By doing it as a ‘surprise!’ at your wedding, everyone would go out of their way to make sure you didn’t feel slighted and he could avoid talking about it.”
Others pointed out that the bride’s brother also treated his girlfriend unfairly.
“Not only was your brother an [a——] to you and your husband on your wedding day, he was also potentially an [a——] to his girlfriend. Did she know that none of you had no idea she existed?” a Redditor asked. “Imagine meeting your boyfriend’s family for the first time and they didn’t even know you existed.”
Several other commenters also backed up the bride’s choice to stand firm on her wedding photos.
“Having her in your wedding photos is unfair to you because they are not even married or engaged — the family does not even know her, they might break up in the next week and now you just have a pregnant stranger in your forever photos,” one person pointed out, adding, “I understand your frustration.”
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