A groom’s family can’t attend his destination wedding, and the bride is beginning to feel guilty.
In a post shared to Reddit’s “Wedding Drama” forum on Tuesday, April 1, a bride shared that most of her family members are attending the ceremony, while only the groom’s parents are showing up for him.
The destination wedding is being held in Las Vegas, the bride wrote, revealing that initially, the couple wanted to elope, but “we got guilt tripped about not inviting any family.” It was the groom’s idea to have an actual ceremony in Vegas to appease family members on both sides.
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The bride’s family is blended due to a few divorces, and with extended family like grandparents and uncles, the bride has many people showing up for her. The groom’s family, meanwhile, is much smaller, and though everyone — included extended family — was invited, only his parents are going to attend.
“We are not upset about people not going by any means, and we knew that having a destination wedding meant that not everyone would be able to come,” the bride wrote. “However, I feel very guilty that my family is able to come but not his.”
The bride also shared in the comments that much of the groom’s family said they wouldn’t attend even if the wedding was just a short drive away — making it to seemingly appear that it’s not about distance or cost. The post, however, did not offer an explanation for the groom’s family’s reluctance to attend.
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Some in the comments noted that a “different state” doesn’t necessarily constitute a destination wedding — and that most weddings nowadays require some travel, as friends and family are often more spread out.
One noted that a wedding in the couple’s hometown could still require significant hours and money on a guest’s behalf, just as a destination wedding would. Another user suggested to cater to those unable to attend, and that after the wedding, the newlyweds should host a reception in a place more local to the groom’s family so that it’s accessible to them as well.
However, one of the most liked comments said, “When you choose to have a destination wedding, you have to be prepared for this type of outcome.”
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