- A Reddit user revealed that a close friend, who was hosting a potluck, called her out in front of everyone for not contributing even though the host said it was okay not to bring anything
- “I feel like she put me on blast in front of people for something I didn’t even do wrong,” the guest said of the host’s verbal jab
- A Redditor replied to her situation, writing, “The number one no-no in any hosting situation is making a guest feel uncomfortable”
A woman doesn’t feel cool as a cucumber after attending a potluck.
The guest vented on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum about how the host told her it was okay not to bring anything to the potluck but then acted “annoyed” when she showed up empty-handed.
“One of my close friends hosted a dinner at her place … and sent a group text saying we should each bring a little something, drinks, snacks, whatever. It wasn’t anything fancy, just casual,” the guest explained in her account posted on Wednesday, April 9.
“I asked her what I should bring and mentioned I’d be coming straight from work and might be a little rushed,” the woman recalled of their pre-potluck conversation. “She replied that I didn’t need to worry about it, she had plenty of food and just wanted me to come.”
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The original poster (OP) then showed up without any food or drinks. “Honestly, the night was going fine. People brought stuff, a salad, some cupcakes, a couple bottles of wine,” she wrote. “I was planning to just help clean up or do dishes since I didn’t bring anything.”
However, the host apparently shifted mindsets about not contributing. “While people were complimenting the food, she made this offhand comment like, ‘Well, not everyone contributed, but we’re still glad she showed up,’ ” she recounted of the host’s unexpected verbal jab.
She added, “Everyone laughed, and it didn’t seem super serious, but I felt my face get hot.”
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“I stayed polite and tried not to act weird about it, but I felt uncomfortable the rest of the night,” the guest continued. “On the way home, I kept thinking about it. I get that maybe she was a little annoyed, but she literally told me not to bring anything. And now I feel like she put me on blast in front of people for something I didn’t even do wrong.”
Admitting that she “can’t shake the feeling that it wasn’t fair” for her close friend to call her out, the OP asked the Reddit forum, “Am I the a—— for not bringing anything to my friend’s potluck after she told me not to?”
The post has garnered more than 1,400 comments, with many Redditors reassuring her that she’s “NTA [not the a——]” in this situation.
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“The number one no-no in any hosting situation is making a guest feel uncomfortable,” one person replied. “And for her to specify that OP didn’t need to bring anything, then humiliate her for doing just that? Unforgivable. That would be the last party I would attend of hers.”
However, another Redditor felt differently — and recommended a solution to avoid this in the future. “NTA , HOWEVER I feel like your text to her may have been a bit manipulative,” they explained. “The whole ‘I’ll be rushed I’m coming from work’ was really irrelevant and wouldn’t have stopped you buying a bottle of wine, leaving it in the car and then contributing to the pot luck. It could have easily come across as you trying to get out of contributing.”
“It would have been so simple to say nothing and just bring something non perishable,” they continued. “In future just do this.”
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